DEAR ABBA: When I work 12-hour night shifts at the hospital, my husband sometimes invites co-workers and friends over. He likes being in a crowd. (I prefer to maintain an in depth circle of friends.) Often I don’t mind. It is a weekday and the subsequent day my husband has to work (often six days per week) and puts our three children to bed on time.
Recently my 10 12 months old daughter told me that while I was working she saw them with a tube on the counter they usually were sniffing something. She also said that the longer term wife of certainly one of my husband’s friends and that they kissed on the couch after which moved to her bedroom where they kissed. She said she was afraid to inform me earlier because she didn’t want her dad yelling at her.
I am furious. Words cannot express how indignant this makes me. I don’t understand how he could put our kids in this case. I can not help but wonder what else happened while I was working. How am I purported to discuss with him about it without losing it completely and throwing him out? — LIVE IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR LIVID: Looks like your husband must grow up a bit. His sentence was terrible. You might have every right to read him the riot act, but that type of speech is simpler cold. Since you possibly can’t make certain if this was a one time thing, consider installing security cameras in your property so you possibly can check on your kids’s safety while you work. Depending on what the pictures reveal, it could be higher for him to live elsewhere.
DEAR ABBA: My co-workers and I exit for lunch once per week. We used to take turns driving, but one co-worker is so excited to drive that we have let her do it everywhere in the last 12 months. Abby, she is NOT a very good driver. She hits curbs when turning, and on one occasion she hit one other automobile in a car parking zone because she was unable to properly turn into an adjoining automobile parking space.
Until recently, these incidents were more embarrassing than disturbing, but yesterday she joined traffic without checking oncoming cars and we were almost hit by a van that had the suitable of way. her answer? “Good! He didn’t brake for me at All!”
She’s a pleasant lady; none of us wish to hurt her feelings, but we not feel protected along with her behind the wheel. Her biggest problem appears to be that she desires to discuss with everyone while driving. She gets distracted by conversation and doesn’t focus on the duty at hand.
How can we politely tell her she must focus on driving or let another person drive the team to lunch? — DISTURBANCE IN CANADA
EXPENSIVE UNCERTAIN: I’m truthfully shocked that you just’re all still riding with this person. Tell her that not only does she have to focus on driving when she’s behind the wheel, which she must have realized by now, but additionally that from now on the remainder of you’ll provide transportation for these trips. Don’t take no for a solution. Your life may depend on it.
DEAR ABBA: Remind your readers how essential it’s for people to deal with their beloved pets in case the owner dies first. It shouldn’t be enough that the relevant home is listed within the legal documents. Money for food and vet bills also needs to be included. It is so sad when senior pets find yourself in shelters because there are not any records in the need regarding the care of their beloved furry members of the family. — AHEAD PLANNING IN TEXAS
DEAR PLANNING: This is superb advice, and I know many dedicated pet owners will thanks for the reminder. I know yes. Thanks in your essential letter.
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